So How Did You Know~Dwayna

Dwayna Speaks On How She Knew

Wedding Anniversary Date: September 1, 2007

How she knew her husband was the one for her:

“I knew Bryan was my husband because he was the exact opposite of the knucklehead (note: that is not the word I wanted to use) I previously dated. I was in the midst of a five-year relationship with my first 'love and lover' and I was feeling trapped. I loved him, but he was completely toxic to me. We'd been through so many relationship traumas that there really was no future for us, but I was afraid to let go. I was afraid that he'd leave me and actually do right by the next woman. The thought of that paralyzed me and kept me up at night. He would pick fights with me just so that he could sleep with other people. The worst part ... everyone knew, which made me the dumb chic who dates 'What's his name who slept with fill in the blank'.

Anyway, Bryan and I worked at the same place and he just carried himself with such pride, dignity and ease. You could tell just by looking at him. You know what they say, "Sugar tastes so much better once you've eaten s**t!" (Sorry ... there's no other word for that one :-) I watched him for weeks. He was on my mind day and night. AND everyone I asked about him had such wonderful things to say. I finally got the courage (even though I was still in my other relationship) to ask him out on a date. He said 'yes' and it’s been ... well … magic since that day.

This man feeds my soul. He was immediately interested in getting to know my mind … not my body. He did sweet things ... romantic things ... things you read in books. He cherished me. He nursed my soul back to health. He breathed life into what was dead and he loved what I thought was unlovable about me.

We've been married for just about 16 months now. It’s the wisest decision I've ever made in my life. I chose a partner who sees me. A partner who pushes me to be great. A man who understands that pleasing my body means starting with my mind. He is the definition ...

I sometimes wonder how I found him. I now know he actually was sent to me from God. I prayed for him and God answered. I used to hate that old church call to 'Wait for your husband' or 'God is gonna send you a man'. It used to make me so mad! (LOL) But ... when I was broken and naked in my shower one night I prayed strength to leave my toxic relationship and courage to seek/date a man just like Bryan . Two weeks later he appeared. He was always there before, but for some reason, I could finally see him.

We have a beautiful marriage and I thank God for my life everyday. It feels storybook at times, but I'm wise enough to know that it's just God's divine favor and sweet grace .”